Ah weddings! Nothing brings people together better than two people sharing nuptials, throw in an ex or two and watch your elegant reception turn into a reality TV show. Are you in a position where your ex might be on your guest list? Generally, inviting an ex to your wedding is seen as a no-no out of respect for your fiancé's feelings. However, life sometimes throws these awkward situations where your ex is now a close friend, is in a relationship with your best friend or cousin, or is the parent of your children

from your previous relationship. This is where the common rule becomes complicated.

If you are considering inviting your ex to your wedding, think strongly about your reasons why. Discuss inviting this person thoroughly with your fiancé in private before you send out any invitations. Encourage them to be totally honest about how they feel about the presence of your ex at their wedding. Think about how you would feel if they wanted to or felt they had to invite their ex, would it make your day uncomfortable?

What kind of history do you have with this person? What kind of history does your fiancé have with this person? Will it affect the behaviour of your guests? How will your family behave around your ex considering they might have known them very well from the past? Will there be inappropriate jokes about the "one who got away’ or old stories about how you and your ex were caught kissing behind the shed when you were younger. Inhibitions can be well lost where alcohol is flowing and this may lead to conflict or feelings of loss and regret. Some exes might be offended that they are even invited to a day of celebration with a new person, so think about how much salt you might be unintentionally rubbing in the wound.

Every single case is different and there is no straightforward logic to human relationships. Respect your fiancés wishes as you would wish them to respect yours. If you have an understanding partner who is comfortable enough to be okay with your ex attending your wedding, that's great. But it must be reinforced how huge of an expectation this is and means that the feelings of the person you are marrying should come first.