Do your research

If you’re completely lost regarding how wedding vows are structured, the best way to learn is to read other couples vows. Whether you want to find some examples online or ask friends and family to read over their vows, it’s the best way of understanding how vows should be structured and received. Don’t plagiarize though – no matter how romantic and perfect that template you find online may be, your vows will succeed better if they come from you. 

Make sure you're on the same page

While many couples do opt to keep their vows a surprise for one another, it is always best to have a quick chat with each other in terms of how the vows should be structured. For example, you should ensure your vows timing and length is somewhat equal to avoid any awkward differences or comparisons on the day. You should also ask your partner about the general vibe and feel of their vows to ensure that your sentiments carry the same tone.

Make your promises

The ultimate purpose of your vows are to solidify your promises to one another. Think up what promises you wish to put on yourself regarding loving and caring for your partner for the rest of your lives together. Make them honest and realistic, as well as unique to your relationship if possible. 

Practice, practice, practice

It may sound silly, but practicing reading your vows aloud is the key to success. You need to know that what you’ve written reads well and master the pace and speed at which you speak. It’s always best to time your speech a few times to ensure it is of a suitable length, and reading it to others will help with both confidence and getting feedback on what you’ve prepared.